Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game
April 24th-27th in Sonoma, CA
$200 Early Bird Discount thru March 15th!
Do you and your partner miss that old feeling of excitement and passion that has faded into complacency and predictability?
Struggling with different libidos, relating to sex like it’s a chore, and feeling rejection and resentment are just some of the challenges couples in long-term relationships face. When intimacy gets stagnant it can be hard to find ways to reconnect sexually that feel genuine and pleasurable.
Escape the distractions of daily life and immerse yourselves in a transformative 3-night, 4-day retreat designed to reignite passion, rebuild intimacy, and create a sustainable foundation for lasting connection.
This safe and supportive environment will allow you to unearth the specific challenges and beliefs that have hindered your intimacy and learn tailor-made strategies to overcome them. Through carefully curated activities, exercises, and discussions, they’ll guide you on a sensual journey to reignite desire, explore new pleasures, and rejuvenate your romantic connection.
In this experiential course, you will:
Uncover the various libido blockers that get in the way of your turn on, pleasure, and intimacy and receive the tools and skills that will help you overcome them together.
Learn how to get out of the anxious-avoidant dynamic, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle and effectively explore feelings, needs, and desires.
Explore how to make tailor-made verbal, physical, and romantic bids for intimacy that will allow you to successfully woo your partner.
Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure by attuning to the rightness of the moment.
Acquire an array of practices that will support you to rediscover your desire and increase your capacity for giving and receiving pleasure.
You’ll also have the opportunity to:
Eat delicious, local organic food that meets your dietary restrictions
Lounge in a big, beautiful heated pool and hot tub and immerse in nourishing nature
Rest in hammocks under the trees and take in stunning vistas on hillside swings
Explore the trail system that winds through the property
Take yoga, movement, and mindfulness classes
Take a bonus workshop on romantic, passionate, and dominant touch
Participate in a sensual soiree
Add on couples massages
You’ll receive a customizable roadmap with the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy booklet
Identify your specific intimacy blockers including pressure, insecurities, shame, conflict, stress as well as the skills needed to overcome them.
Engage in self-reflection exercises designed to foster a deeper understanding of your desires, needs, and fears.
Use the informational handouts to easily refer back to and remember the concepts, activities, and tools shared.
Select and record the specific practices and techniques that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy.
Location, Lodging, & Schedule
Discover this peaceful retreat 1 hour from San Francisco nestled in the treetops of Sonoma wine country, where breathtaking nature meets modern chic design and amenities. The outdoor space includes hiking trails spanning 10 secluded acres with swings, camping hammocks, meadows, and stunning panoramic vistas. The house combines luxury & mid-century charm with a heated pool and hot tub, 3 wood burning fireplaces and a fireside conversation pit, 5 remodeled bathrooms, 2 sunlit cozy living rooms, and a large event space. EV charging is available for folks who arrive with electric vehicles.
There are options for camping, glamping, and gorgeous private rooms, including one that has a private sauna and soaking tub overlooking the woods! Check out the detailed schedule, photos of the property and lodging options, and more!
Reviews
"My partner and I have been so caught up in parenting, work and life that we had started to feel more like coworkers than in a relationship. We left the workshop feeling more connected both emotionally and sexually and also so much clearer about what caused us to fall into that rut and how to avoid it moving forward. We wholeheartedly recommend this course!" - S. M.
"We have tried so many things that haven’t worked and I can honestly say this was the profound reset for our relationship that I had started to question if it was even possible. I am so grateful to Dr. Aly and Seb for their assistance, humor, and thoughtfulness in the ways they made the material so accessible and applicable." - C. T.
"This workshop gave us the traction we’ve been hungry for in a way that feels authentic, accessible and real. We know what we need to work on and what each of us can do to show up more fully for the other. We already feel so much closer and are excited to continue to put this into action so we can maintain our intimacy." J. J.
Tickets
$200 Early Bird Discount thru March 15th!
We also have space for 1 couple to volunteer for heavily discounted tickets. Payment plans available as well as group tickets for non-monogamous folks.
Meet the Facilitators
Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.
Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke. In their coaching practice, they frequently work with couples in long term relationships who are struggling to keep the spark alive. Through offering experiential practices, they support these couples to find new ways of being in connection with each other. Sebastian also has more than a decade of experience working with neurodivergent folks, supporting them to increase their capacity for healthy relating. In addition, he's a trauma-informed massage therapist specializing in nervous system regulation.